The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Talking At
We file the person who will not stop talking under self-absorbed. Craig Constantine, who publishes these field notes, gives an account of his own over-talking that makes that untenable. He watches your micro-expressions, reading your face for the verdict he is trying to outrun. Context is not a route to the point but the postponement… More →
Nothing to Play Back
Julie Angel judges a conversation by whether she can still tell you what it was about. If she cannot, it was good. Karen Morgan records her stand-up sets and finds lines she never wrote and does not remember, often the funniest ones. Morgan is not Angel’s rebuttal but her evidence: the best material comes from… More →
Asking Without Armor
Craig Constantine separates asking for a friend from asking as a five-year-old: one is a costume, the other a constraint. A complicated question proves you belong in the room and fences in the answer you can get back. The simple one does neither. We do not fail to think of the five-year-old’s question. We think… More →
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“The very thing that makes connection work — the absence of calculation — disappears the instant you start keeping a ledger.”
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.