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Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Whose Thought Is It, Anyway
A thought arrives in a conversation. Later you’ll attribute it to one speaker. But neither of you was carrying it when the conversation started. Corey Schlosser-Hall asks whether something genuinely new gets constructed in the interaction itself. The thought wasn’t sitting in either head waiting to be triggered. Some of what we walk around calling… More →
You’ve Never Had a 1:1 Conversation
Two people sit down to talk and we call it a one-on-one. The room is more crowded than that. Nikki Lerner describes carrying her audience even when she’s speaking to a single listener. We all carry crowds—mentors, past selves, absent friends, imagined audiences. The sentence that comes out of your mouth is a survivor of… More →
Three Conversations Pretending to Be One
A friend tells you something hard. Within thirty seconds you’re sharing your own similar experience. You feel close to them. They’re not having the same experience. Jayne Heggen names three distinct stances—mentoring, coaching, counseling—each running through our hardest conversations unnamed. The moments where someone walked away feeling unheard aren’t failures of caring. They’re failures of… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.