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Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Don’t Be the Meal
Soisci Porchetta describes her teaching role as additive, not central—the supplement, not the meal. The student has to forage their own meat and vegetables. The same principle reaches into ordinary conversation any time you have what someone is reaching for. Becoming the meal looks like over-explaining, finishing sentences, giving the conclusion. Each move feels generous.… More →
When the Frame Underneath Isn’t Shared
You have a conversation with someone you’ve known for years. The same words you’ve been using stop meaning the same things. Dori Fern describes what happens when two people who can usually find each other discover, mid-conversation, that they aren’t standing on the same ground. We have a craft for in-frame conversation. The harder craft—talking… More →
Who Is the Sharing For?
You share advice, an experience, a relevant fact. It feels generous. Joe Boyle asks the question that exposes the mix: why are we wanting to share anything? Some of what you’re saying, you’re saying because they need to hear it. Some of it, you’re saying because you need to say it. The most generous move… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.