The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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Who Is the Sharing For?
You share advice, an experience, a relevant fact. It feels generous. Joe Boyle asks the question that exposes the mix: why are we wanting to share anything? Some of what you’re saying, you’re saying because they need to hear it. Some of it, you’re saying because you need to say it. The most generous move… More →
We Pick the Medium, Then Call It the Conversation
You need to talk to someone about something that matters. Without thinking much, you choose: text, phone, in person, voice memo. The choice feels like logistics. It’s actually a choice about which conversation you’ll end up having. Each medium permits and forbids different things. The conversation we never had with someone may simply be the… More →
There Is No Recording
After a show, Karen Morgan can listen to the actual recording. After a conversation, you can’t. The thing on file when you ‘review’ a conversation later is a reconstruction—edited toward your case the moment you walked away. The argument you had last week is not the argument you’re recalling now. The actual conversation is gone.… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.