The art of conversation — taken apart, one real exchange at a time.
Something happens between two people when they talk. Most of us never look at what that something is. Open + Curious does — in weekly essays that examine real conversations and find the mechanics hiding inside them.
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The Monologue You Can’t Overhear
Naomi Honey, a parkour and life coach, heard a friend declare herself unable to learn Danish and saw at once that the verdict was wrong. Her own verdict on her parkour she could not hear at all. The talk inside your head arrives as a report rather than as talk, because its only listener is… More →
Nobody to Call the Game
In capoeira, two players trade kicks and escapes inside a ring of singers, and when one stops responding, someone else calls the game. Paul Graves learned to hold a conversation there. Talk has no such call. A monologue can pass for a dialogue, and the only people positioned to end a one-sided conversation are the… More →
Talking At
We file the person who will not stop talking under self-absorbed. Craig Constantine, who publishes these field notes, gives an account of his own over-talking that makes that untenable. He watches your micro-expressions, reading your face for the verdict he is trying to outrun. Context is not a route to the point but the postponement… More →
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I’m Craig Constantine. I’ve published nearly 450 long-form conversations over the past decade, and Open + Curious is where I dig into what I keep noticing about how they work.